In our regular feature ‘Ask Melynda’ we’ll take your most puzzling questions or persistent problems and ask our resident Feng Shui ‘expert’ Melynda Munro to advise and guide you. So if you have any Feng Shui or Chinese Astrology questions email them to us at [email protected] and we’ll publish her response in our next edition.
Hi Tammy, there are quite a few formulas for activating love, or relationships in Feng Shui. Some are quite general and some are more specific and more effective. For example your Feng Shui practitioner would use your DOB to calculate your 4 Pillars of Destiny and see what your love prospects are like, what Luck Cycle you are currently in and if indeed it relates to love, or perhaps something else which you may be better to focus your energy on. Also according to which one of the 12 celestial animal signs you were born under, we would place a symbol of lasting love such as a pair of mandarin ducks, a picture of a happy couple, or a vase of fresh flowers in your home. The colour of the vase and flowers would depend on the gender of the person seeking the relationship, and the placement of any of these would be in a direction which corresponded to your ‘Flower of Romance’.
The Feng Shui of your home also needs to be balanced, and of course the more respectful, clear and nurturing your relationship is with yourself, the more your inner light shines and the more attractive you will become. Otherwise avoid pictures of aggressive or tough looking people in your home and especially in your bedroom. Make sure your bedroom has a lovely vase in there, as well as a pair of Mandarin Ducks facing each other and some would even say join to them together by putting a red ribbon around their necks, but I am not overly fond of that idea. Furthermore you should work on becoming the qualities you want to attract in your life, for example if you want honesty then always speak the truth, if you want a partner who lives and eats healthily, do the same.
All the best Tammy in finding and attracting your love.
2. Hi Melynda, after many years of studying Feng Shui, I have a few burning questions that I thought would create an interesting conversation/dialogue. My first question is….. If one incorporates everything they possibly can or know about Feng Shui into their home, in all areas of life, does this guarantee or automatically mean that their lives should be incredibly successful, healthy, creative, happy, etc., etc.? If not, why not and how would one then achieve greater success, health and happiness? – Colin from the United States
Hi Colin, that’s a deep question and yes for many people their ideal is to achieve the best possible outcome for all that they have learned and implemented. Yet there are many things we don’t know and don’t always have control over. For example a developer pulling down a building next door to the West of you in 2015 would create a huge possibility for accidents, sickness money loss etc, as the San Sha or 3 Killings annual energy and the 5 Yellow are there; creating a violation which is doubled in the month of January 2016.
According to the Chinese masters our past life karma also may yet to be played out in our lives and this can be understood and explained by a very experienced Ba Zi Master when they look at your 4 Pillars of Destiny. The advice then given by them can range from avoiding funerals to hosting dinners, working charitably and giving offerings to reduce the possible effect of these negative influences.
Also as we ourselves become more increasingly aware and fine tune our lives, we can sense imbalances and adjust things accordingly; including for example the awareness of the person you were impatient with yesterday energetically bringing a possible mishap today. We need to live our lives in accordance with nature and strive to be constantly developing ourselves in our heart and minds, to be the best we can be. This in turn allows energy to flow and good things to come our way. Feng Shui of your home and environment is Earth Luck and yes we need to live in a harmonious and balanced environment; however we also need to constantly better ourselves and our world in order to balance and support our future.